Durable Dad with Tommy Geary
The Durable Dad podcast gives men the skills and tools they need to be rock solid for their family, their work and their community.
Episodes
81 episodes
080: How to Stay in the Driver’s Seat
We all have a default mode of operating – Our general disposition.Maybe it’s intense go-go mode, or more of a slow, steady, calm mode. The important thing to remember is that we get to control our mode. It’s no...
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079: How to Stop Nagging Your Kids
I was talking to a buddy the other day about his son’s cleanliness (or lack of), and he said something that I think every dad can relate to. He said he just wants his kids to be decent humans. When our kids go off into...
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078: Get Ahead of the Blow-Up
When we snap, it seems to happen suddenly.Like it's the last straw, and there's no stopping the volcano eruption.But there are ways to stop it. Today's episode will do a quick review of the thinking cycle – the...
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077: Unwind with a Net Positive Impact
Can watching Netflix or scrolling through social media really help you unwind? Today's episode will look at common strategies men use to unplug at the end of the day, and you'll walk away with better options. Imagine you're an arch...
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076: Gain the Courage to Screw Up
Are you screwing up enough?We’ve seen all the memes about “failing forward” and “using failure as a stepping stone.” But STILL, subconsciously, we let the fear of failure hold us back. That fear is hardwired into us, and un...
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075: Influence vs Control
While we can’t control other people, we CAN influence them.In fact, we’re influencing others at all times, whether we want to or not – Especially our kids.Our influence happens because of a function in our brain called neurocept...
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074: Empower Your Team
We have impact (not control) over our employees. And as their leader, THE most IMPACTFUL thing we can do, is clean up our thoughts about them – especially if it’s an employee that can get under our skin. Here’s why: Wh...
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073: Dismantle Your Playbooks
A playbook is a set of expectations we have for another person.If you were the coach of a football team, you’d have a set of playbooks, and you’d expect your team members to play the game accordingly. We do the same thing i...
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072: Master the Worry Matrix
Men have a list of things to worry about. Take your pick:- Are you saving enough money?- Will your kids turn out okay?- Will your kids have fond memories of you?- Are you failing in your career?If you really pay attentio...
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071: Control your Anger like a Stoic
School probably taught you how to read and write, but skipped over how to handle bad news, failure, or disappointment.This is where stoicism comes in. Stoicism teaches us how to handle the difficult things in life.
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070: Confront your Exhaustion
One dad told me, “I wake up at 4:57 each morning, put on my pants, and go nonstop until 9pm when I watch 30 minutes of Netflix and crash. Then I wake up and do it again.”And I think 99% of dads can relate.The list of todos is ex...
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069: Halftime Strategy
Use this podcast episode when you’re part way through any course, season, or year of your life, and you want to regroup and make the second half a win. It’s a strategic pause. A time to huddle at half time so you can plan out the s...
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068: Build a Bond Through Your Kid's Sports
It feels like a reasonable thought to not want your kid to fail – To not want them to be disappointed. BUT, that leaves us over-advising before and after their games, and trying to minimize their crushed spirits when they lose....
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067: Take Ownership
The opposite of ownership is the victim mindset. And even the best of us slip into it sometimes.If our kids would friggen listen. If our employee would... If the city would... If our wife would...It feels frustratin...
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066: Father Figures: Lesson and Legacies
When it comes to our dads, I see guys fall into one of three camps:My dad wasn’t around.My dad was around, but he wasn’t a great dad.I strive to be more like my dad.Or maybe you’re a blend of two of th...
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065: 3 Problems with Visualization
As men, here's where we tend to get visualization wrong:1. We don’t do it. Visualization is a powerful tool, but like a brand new drill we let sit in the unopened box, the tool goes unused.2. We picture the past that we don’t wa...
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064: Practice vs. Game Time
If life is a game, how do you want to perform?And like any game, we gotta practice. We can’t expect to play at a high level if we don’t put in the work outside of game time. And it doesn’t take much. <...
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063: What Scoreboard are You Looking at?
We’re all playing a game. 👉 Maybe it’s the finance game. 👉 Maybe it’s the “I’m right, you’re wrong” game. 👉 Maybe it’s the happiness game – If I’m happy and feeling good, I’m winning.But none of those games ar...
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062: Get Outside
Did you know there are no straight lines in nature?Our brains are more visually stimulated in the forest than they are in our living room. That’s one of the thousands of reasons it feels so friggen good to be in nature....
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061: Anger is a Message
Psychologists describe anger as a secondary emotion. There’s always a primary emotion that’s driving the anger.Picture an iceberg – Anger is just at the tip. Another emotion is beneath the surface that’s causing your anger ...
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060: Get Off Your Phone
Are you the master of your phone or vice versa?It’s an incredible tool, but it distracts us from our kids and interrupts our productivity.And it takes some vigilance to rise above the masses, rise above the marketing and media, ...
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059: How to Combat a Midlife Crisis
A midlife crisis happens when we stop feeling excited about life.But it's really just a calling – A calling to change or do something different. It's the start of what Joseph Campbell calls your "Hero's Journey." <...
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058: Get More Buddies in Your Life
If you feel isolated, you’re not the only one. We don’t make friends as easily as we did in high school and college. Yet, having guys at your back – guys you can count on – is something every man can use in his life.&nbs...
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