Durable Dad with Tommy Geary
The Durable Dad podcast gives men the skills and tools they need to be rock solid for their family, their work and their community.
Episodes
90 episodes
089: Top 4 Strategies to Navigate Career Change
Why would a successful man shift careers?Maybe you want more freedom, flexibility, autonomy. Maybe you want to feel like you're making a difference – that what you're doing matters. Or maybe it's all of the above. Whatever ...
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20:11
088: What You Want is Already In You
We’re ready to hit new goals in 2025. The journey we're embarking on is an inward journey. Not so much a pursuit as it is an uncovering. Shedding some of our programing, habits and lines of thinking, in order to uncover ...
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12:35
087: Don't Discount the Small Talk
Small talk can be draining – surface-level conversations that leave you bored or tired. But this episode will give you a new and valuable take on small talk.Because if we’re only living for the big events, we’re missing out...
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10:07
086: 3 Stoic Principles to Navigate Family Tension
This week, we cover three Stoic practices to navigate family tension and not let it get in the way of enjoying the holidays. You will:- Plan for potential difficulties so you’re not blindsided.- Reframe challenges as op...
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12:54
085: It's All About Your 1:1 Time
I send a weekly reflection form to my guys the day before each session – just four quick questions so they can get some insight on what's working, what's not, and what to change.And I've noticed a pattern.Looking back at all the...
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13:00
084: 3 Easy Tactics to Get Off Your Phone
How’s your phone usage?One guy I was working with knew he was on it too much at bedtime and that it was interfering with his sleep. We pulled three principles from James Clear’s book, Atomic Habits and honed in on:1. Ha...
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14:51
083: Finding Balance in Stressful Moments
Why do we overreact? Even when we know better. We know it’s gonna piss someone off or upset the person in front of us, but our mouth takes a mind of it’s own and say the thing anyway. The truth is, our bra...
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11:20
082: How to Get Out of a Rut
We don't want to make decisions from a rut. And by rut, I mean anxious, bummed out, down – When things feel stagnant or even in a downward spiral.Here are three steps to get out a rut so you can make better decisions:Step 1: What'...
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12:39
081: Is Your Life Harder than it Needs to be?
Are you making things more difficult for yourself?Whether life feels pretty normal, or if you’re going through a rough patch, here’s an equation that’ll make things easier for you:Suffering = Pain x ResistanceIn other wo...
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11:22
080: How to Stay in the Driver’s Seat
We all have a default mode of operating – Our general disposition.Maybe it’s intense go-go mode, or more of a slow, steady, calm mode. The important thing to remember is that we get to control our mode. It’s no...
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12:00
079: How to Stop Nagging Your Kids
I was talking to a buddy the other day about his son’s cleanliness (or lack of), and he said something that I think every dad can relate to. He said he just wants his kids to be decent humans. When our kids go off into...
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12:21
078: Get Ahead of the Blow-Up
When we snap, it seems to happen suddenly.Like it's the last straw, and there's no stopping the volcano eruption.But there are ways to stop it. Today's episode will do a quick review of the thinking cycle – the...
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12:27
077: Unwind with a Net Positive Impact
Can watching Netflix or scrolling through social media really help you unwind? Today's episode will look at common strategies men use to unplug at the end of the day, and you'll walk away with better options. Imagine you're an arch...
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15:11
076: Gain the Courage to Screw Up
Are you screwing up enough?We’ve seen all the memes about “failing forward” and “using failure as a stepping stone.” But STILL, subconsciously, we let the fear of failure hold us back. That fear is hardwired into us, and un...
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11:59
075: Influence vs Control
While we can’t control other people, we CAN influence them.In fact, we’re influencing others at all times, whether we want to or not – Especially our kids.Our influence happens because of a function in our brain called neurocept...
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11:10
074: Empower Your Team
We have impact (not control) over our employees. And as their leader, THE most IMPACTFUL thing we can do, is clean up our thoughts about them – especially if it’s an employee that can get under our skin. Here’s why: Wh...
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11:07
073: Dismantle Your Playbooks
A playbook is a set of expectations we have for another person.If you were the coach of a football team, you’d have a set of playbooks, and you’d expect your team members to play the game accordingly. We do the same thing i...
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13:31
072: Master the Worry Matrix
Men have a list of things to worry about. Take your pick:- Are you saving enough money?- Will your kids turn out okay?- Will your kids have fond memories of you?- Are you failing in your career?If you really pay attentio...
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12:32
071: Control your Anger like a Stoic
School probably taught you how to read and write, but skipped over how to handle bad news, failure, or disappointment.This is where stoicism comes in. Stoicism teaches us how to handle the difficult things in life.
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16:50
070: Confront your Exhaustion
One dad told me, “I wake up at 4:57 each morning, put on my pants, and go nonstop until 9pm when I watch 30 minutes of Netflix and crash. Then I wake up and do it again.”And I think 99% of dads can relate.The list of todos is ex...
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11:22
069: Halftime Strategy
Use this podcast episode when you’re part way through any course, season, or year of your life, and you want to regroup and make the second half a win. It’s a strategic pause. A time to huddle at half time so you can plan out the s...
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11:13
068: Build a Bond Through Your Kid's Sports
It feels like a reasonable thought to not want your kid to fail – To not want them to be disappointed. BUT, that leaves us over-advising before and after their games, and trying to minimize their crushed spirits when they lose....
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11:59
067: Take Ownership
The opposite of ownership is the victim mindset. And even the best of us slip into it sometimes.If our kids would friggen listen. If our employee would... If the city would... If our wife would...It feels frustratin...
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